All through their relationship, Harry was the one in charge, Harry was the one who gave them direction. This wasn’t because Harry was smarter or even better at it than Craig was; it just meant more to him, to be in control. And Craig didn’t really care, so he ceded it away. He liked not being responsible all the time. Complacency. Craig realizes now that this was complacency. One of the reasons he liked the sound of Harry’s voice was because it meant he didn’t have to use his own. But eventually this strategy backfired. Eventually Harry realized what was happening, and didn’t feel right about it. He wanted Craig to fight a little more, but by the time Craig started fighting for them to stay together, he had already lost. .David Levithan
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Complacency is a serious problem in relationships. If you are the one doing all the work, you are likely to become complacent. You will stop trying to do your best because you are worried that the other person will leave. You don’t want to put in that much effort because you are afraid that if you fail, the relationship will end.
It is true that being too self-effacing can cause problems in a relationship. But there are also times when it is necessary for you to step up and take charge instead of waiting for someone else to do it for you.
Source: Two Boys Kissing
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